Monday, October 24, 2016

All of life has been a preparation for this moment

People who are sadly mistaken, think that nothing is related to any other.  So it comes as quite a shock to them, to learn that they may have had a hand in the outcome they are presently experiencing.  It might be as obvious as their poor health and condition.  What they did -- or didn't do -- is the reason they are in the shape they're in, and not that they had no part in it.  

It is safe to say, that those who are the happiest and most content, are those who think they are mostly responsible for their own fate and outcomes -- and therefore do something about it, rather than lamenting how unfair life has been to them, and given them nothing they deserve.  In all likelihood, they have gotten what they deserved -- and if they don't like it, it is  time to look into their own actions and their consequences, and see the error of their ways and understanding.

For this, they don't need to begin with a perfect understanding and mastery, as though such a thing were possible -- and easy.  They simply have to get better at what they are doing -- just a little bit each day, and of course, they have to start -- and not think of more excuses not to.  All the excuses in the world, are no substitute for the tiniest bit of action -- in making a difference.  That is especially true when asking why most people age badly, while only a few age well.  Those latter, are those who have bettered their understanding of life -- and what it takes to be successful at it.

Not just to be successful at all the trivial ways people may become distracted at -- but deeply engaged in their own lives, so that it makes a difference -- in everything they do.  It might be even what they don't do anymore -- realizing it is bad for them, and leads to disastrous results.    That would include competing with others, and even oneself -- incessantly, as though it were good and a wise thing to do.  The inevitable result is an unnecessary and avoidable injury -- that leads to a premature and permanent impairment and disability -- no matter how many blows one thinks they can absorb.  It doesn't make them better and more impervious to damage.

It obviously predisposes one to injury -- and with that, a loss of that exercise, articulation and expression -- as happens to so many thinking to retain the recklessness of their youth by indulging in it as long as they can -- until they can't.  That is textbook denial -- rather than an understanding and acceptance of its consequences -- before it is too late.

The signs along the way are obvious -- and obviously trying to tell one something important -- but one has to be listening, or it falls on deaf ears.  That's why it is so important to want to learn.  If a person is not disposed in that way, no amount of teaching is going to make a difference.  One will simply resist it all the more -- thinking that is the proper function of their role in life -- to resist the efforts of every other.  Such a person can never benefit from the efforts of others; they reflexively try to undermine and undo it.  That's what they've been conditioned to do all their lives.

And ultimately, the person they undermine most, is themselves -- because they cannot help themselves. That's the way they are -- and have no way of being otherwise.  Such persons are beyond help.  Shit happens, and there's nothing they -- or anybody else, can do about it!  That's just the way the world is -- according to their understanding.  

So thinking it does make a difference -- makes the biggest difference, which is understanding before any further effort is applied.  Lacking this proper understanding, makes all further effort arbitrary, futile and counterproductive.  Then once the understanding is valid, the effort naturally follows -- but never  does before then.  

So, many people's efforts seem to be in vain, and the belief that it can't make a difference, no matter what -- because they don't have this understanding leading to proper effort.  And there, they do not inquire further -- but accept their dismal fates, as what must be -- and many will agree with them, and encourage them along the way.  They say they wish it could be otherwise, but they do nothing to prevent it.  Nothing will change, as long as people keep doing what they've always done before.  That is the reason it happens.

Thursday, October 06, 2016

Always Be Changing

The characteristic that most distinguishes those living badly -- is their resistance to changing -- particularly when everything in life is demanding that they do, and rather than flowing with that intelligence (information), they choose to deny it -- thinking in that manner, that they can get everything else in the world, to conform to their demands and expectations for it.

And so life beats them down -- relentlessly and unmercifully until they either relent or succumb.  There just is no way of denying reality -- which is the sum total of intelligence, and not just one's own thinking to prevail over it.  That is the critical failure of life -- inevitably resulting in death, but even before that, destruction and injury along the way -- until that final moment.  But before that end becomes manifest, there is much that one can do to improve their chances of prolonging and enhancing their lives -- no matter what.

Life is always the choice between better or worse.  One need not know all the answers at first.  One simply can choose between better or worse -- in that particular moment, and that results in the next, and not that starting from zero, one has to choose the perfect solution from the many choices available -- while thinking that it doesn't matter, and that they are all the same, and will get them to the same place, despite all they do.

To their way of thinking, nothing makes a difference -- and so "shit just happens," and there's nothing anyone can do about it.  Of course such a perspective and outlook, will ensure many disasters in that life -- thinking that nothing they can do, makes any difference in their lives -- instead of the more prudent realization, that everything they do, makes a difference.  And because it does, they also have to allow and provide for a margin of error -- as well, not just from others, but also from oneself.  In that way, they leave very little to chance and error -- and more often than not, realize their desired outcomes.

That is often the difference between winning and losing -- in mere games, which is the conditioning we think to obtain in our play and games.  We are practicing and conditioning ourselves for that success -- of achieving that well-being and good fortune -- and moving beyond to the next level of challenge that ensures that response.  Not to rise to the next challenge, is the beginning of the end.

And so how does one condition themselves for that responsiveness?  That is too always be changing -- especially when in doubt as to the proper course.  One has to retain that ability to change -- no matter what.  Because even if one chooses poorly, one can choose and change again.  Conversely, even if one chooses wisely but then never changes again -- life will eventually pass them by, and leave them behind -- stuck in their ways, that while appropriate and advantageous in another time, no longer serves that purpose.

The great shift from the last century to this, is from a world of scarcity to a world of abundance -- and how one deals with it.  If one continues to consume as much as they can, that will be one's undoing -- in a world of plenty, when the advantage than goes to those who master restraint and discipline.  They will not clutter every inch of their living space so that there is no room to enjoy it.  That is the disease of the acquisitive and accumulative (possessive) personalities in times of scarcity -- that literally bury them when all manner of things are too abundant and accessible -- giving way to the excesses of the present in consumption for its own sake.

Sure, one can, but is it wise to do so?  When is enough, enough?  Even for the good things?  Even medicine abused, can be too much of a good thing.  Those were the excesses warned of even in the ancient times -- when assuredly, things were much scarcer -- even in the most prosperous civilizations.  But then, usually all the abundance could be had by only one --for their exclusive enjoyment, and so there was great striving to be that One.  Such a mentality now, is destructive and ruinous.  There is plenty to go around -- if nobody hoards it.

Hoarding is wanting things just for the sake of having them -- and not using them wisely, if at all.  In fact, that is a great part of the hoarder's joy -- that they never use it, or can enjoy doing so.  Eventually they hoard so much stuff that they just get buried in it -- thinking they can take it all with them into the afterlife.  And in that way, they sacrifice their present life -- not making the most of it, and the present time -- taking only what they truly need, and letting go of all the rest.

In that way, there is plenty to go around.  But not if they think they need to have it all -- and be that way for all eternity.

Monday, September 26, 2016

All the Time in the World

It never fails to amaze (amuse) me to hear people who need to do something important and necessary, say they don't have the time -- because they are doing everything unnecessary and unimportant.  Of course the most important and necessary thing to do is tend to their health -- which is the basis for everything else they do in life, and determines the quality of their lives.  That's nearly indisputable -- but then after that briefest second of clarity, resume the busyness that is responsible for their poor health, condition and quality of life.

Undoubtedly, they have been conditioned for self-destructiveness, rather than self-actualiztion of their own greatest well-being and good -- both intentionally, as well as thoughtlessly by those with their own self-aggrandizing agendas.

Even those one would think have all the time in the world to do anything they could hope for or imagine, often are trapped in their own self-destructive tendencies and inclinations -- rather than simply letting them go, which would already put them way ahead in the game.  It could even be that they have to push themselves to the breaking point each time as the only way they know how to be, or were conditioned to think is necessary.

Nowhere is that mindset more damaging than those mistaking needless competition and competitive strategies, for actualizing their best health and well-being.  In the former, one may have to sacrifice their health and well-being, to outshine all the others -- especially if one is not genetically-gifted for that battle.

Everyone I know who thinks they have to go-all out every day of their lives until they drop dead of a heart attack or congestive heart failure, will succumb to their own self-inflicted injuries -- in that way.  Most former super-athletes, go out that way -- because they cannot overcome that previous conditioning and mindset that would have allowed them to live many more years merely enjoying the gifts they were blessed with, instead of pushing their luck and limits to the breaking point -- sooner or later.

What is instructive to see is how the many "world champions," are able to make that adjustment to simply long lives in good health, rather than the all too typical story of their premature fall from grace, and many years of infamous poor health before their shockingly young end.  That is particularly true, for many of the strongest, largest and fastest people who ever lived.

There has to be a lesson for less gifted people -- as well, because those genetically predisposed, often cannot help themselves -- being the way they are.  They are so highly specialized and programmed, than they cannot be any other than they are.  So while they are young and competitive, those attributes may be what gains them that advantage, but once they retire and still think that is the winning formula, may experience nothing but injury, pain and torment -- with very little of the benefits -- yet persist for the no longer can recall and related "benefits."

That is simply how they think they ought to do things -- and the "only" way they know how to do anything -- all out, or not at all, when the solution more often than not, lies somewhere in between.  More often than not, a little goes a long way -- while of course, zero will remain zero, no matter how good one's intentions.  Regardless, the valuable and instructive exercise, is simply "finding out."  That is what most "too busy" people, never have the time for.  And that more than anything, is the key to well-being and happiness.

In that condition, one is always improving, and life is getting better -- and if not, their condition is what it is.  There is no denying the facts -- that what they are doing, is not working, and in fact, working to undermine them.  Yet they go on in that way, ignoring and denying the obvious -- which are the problems of their lives, invariably thinking there is nothing they can do about it -- when in fact, they are primarily and ultimately responsible for everything happening in their lives.

How do people get that way?  Unquestionably, there are a few things one cannot seem to help or hinder, but it is far from most, or everything one does in life -- or in most cases, does not do -- even if one has all the time in the world, to do anything one could possibly imagine doing.

Thus, it is very important first, to just stop whatever it is one is doing and thinking -- which is the quality of mind called "meditation," and just be aware.  In that state of mind, all things are possible, and all the time in the world to do it.  It doesn't have to be perfect at first -- especially the first time one does anything.  But only doing in this consciousness and attention, makes possible this improvement -- and no amount of doing thoughtlessly and compulsively what one has always done before.  No amount of doing that, will ever make a difference -- and effect the desirable change and outcome.  In fact, and quite probably, that is the cause of one's problems and difficulties.

For all the truly important things in life, there is all the time in the world to do it -- even if it takes one's entire life doing it.  For the unimportant things in life, there is little or no time for it -- and that is why one never has enough time for it, despite all one does -- first.

That's not the same as doing the right thing -- even just to find out.  That makes all the difference in the world.  Problems and difficulties do not arise DESPITE all we do; problems and difficulties arise BECAUSE of all we do.  That is the key to understanding what we are actually doing -- and the condition we are in. 

Thursday, September 08, 2016

Wiser Is Better

Many people grow old without becoming any wiser; many even boast that they stopped learning in kindergarten -- when the formal education begins for most.  That's how life is different now, when the opportunity and necessity for learning something new, never ceases.  That is the great promise for life in the future -- that one out of conditioning and necessity, never stops learning. 

 One observes that one can't teach an old dog new tricks -- but there is reasonable confidence that one can teach a young dog new tricks -- and that is what makes them "young."  Rather than age defining the learning, it is the learning that denotes the age of the mind, and general health of that individual.  We have never seen things that clearly before -- mistaking the effect for the cause -- and correlating all the wrong things.

That is especially true of problem-solving -- that done successfully and well, keeps one alive and thriving, while those not so successful, experience a difficult life -- and have no idea how to change that.  In the worst case scenarios, they simply get worse -- all their lives, and even drag down the lives of all they have contact with.  They are the classic "toxic personalities" -- that there is no denying that they exist -- more commonly in some places than others.

So a great part of life, is learning to avoid such "black holes" -- and moving toward the light, which signifies life and nourishment.  Life evolved in light -- and not darkness.  The total deprivation of light makes life impossible.  Light is energy -- which makes growth possible.  Light is information -- which tells us which direction to go.  Thus we move towards the light, just as plants do.  That's why it is so important, that the first words of God, is "Let there be light."  That's when all life begins -- and the knowledge of it.

What makes anything "food," is that it has energy -- from absorbing the light.  Those are the basics of life -- seen simply, and for us to go on, we have to revert back to the basics -- of questioning all our assumptions, as though we were learning everything new for the first time.  Because the world is always new in that way -- but the mind makes us old in thinking it is the same old world of yesterday, and the past gone by.

That is the problem of "aging" -- and not simply growing through the years.  The mind gets old and lives in the past -- never solving the problems of its own existence -- and dying to the possibilities of the future.  While the "problems" of aging are well-known and documented, the promise of successfully solving those problems, are not thought possible -- and obviously, therein lies the future.  Can one solve the problems faster than they arise?  And is it even possible, to live without creating these problems in the first place?

Can we see life without the problems? -- which creates the need for a solution, and our economic opportunity, or advantage?  Then there is only the basic response to what is -- which is never a problem.  It is simply a choice one makes to the appropriate information one is wholly aware of, and the realization that all one's problems, are the inappropriate responses (choices), and not that the problems are inevitable no matter what one does.  That is always a fatal conclusion -- leading to death, deterioration and disintegration.

It is the failure to integrate oneself with what is going on in the world -- cutting oneself off from vital life in the present reality, while choosing to live in the darkness of one's own memories, thoughts, knowledge, and beliefs -- as though they were reality itself.  That was the conditioning (education) of the old -- being supplanted by everything new.

But not if one convinces themselves, that everything older is better.  That which is better and best, is new -- and constantly renewing that fact, and not simply a habit of always doing things that way -- which is often the problem.  The problems we have, may be due to that fact that we always do things that way -- while not realizing that doing things differently, may be the solution -- and better, that no problem will arise.  It is simply doing the "right" thing from the very beginning -- or at any point thereafter.

However, no amount of the "wrong" thing, will ever make it right -- no matter how long one persists at it, or "forces" it to be right -- through denial or deceit.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

To A Better Place (Survival of the Fitness)

The lesson in life is that one must constantly improve -- or be left behind, to perish with those who can no longer move on.  But that fitness is not only about strength and agility, or any other one thing -- but about everything, and how they work together -- to create more than the sum of its parts.  That is the synergy of life -- making it more than just the little details -- but altogether, take on a life and intelligence of its own, and creates marvelous new things and possibilities one could never have imagined before.

The new, is not merely the old reinvented, and improved.  It is something different entirely.  There's a reason it never happened before -- because it took time to come into being.  And then when it does, people wonder why they never thought of it before -- because it is so obvious, simple, and straightforward.  Life does not move to greater complexity but towards greater simplicity.  That is the genius of it.

But many confused and confusing people, think the object of life, is to make everything more difficult and complicated -- so we need them to understand and explain what is going on.  There is permanent job security in that -- or so they think, until people catch on, and realize they don't have to be dependent on them to interpret life for them.  Of course, some people never achieve that clarity -- or think it possible -- but it is always there for the taking.

First, one has to let go of one's previous conditioning -- that what they know, is all that can be known -- and look with fresh eyes unprejudiced by their own knowledge.  That is a great handicap who those who pride themselves on their knowledge -- and want to hold on to that as long as possible -- thinking it conveys great advantage.

The advantage is always that of an inquiring mind that presumes it knows nothing -- and thus, is willing to learn everything.  Such a mind, is a formidable mind -- because it knows and recognizes no limits, and so is free to observe only what is, as the only reality it knows.  The truth is out there -- and not in the words, thoughts, culture and traditions of an imperfect time and understanding -- that its adherents and devotees insist must be for all time.

Reality and truth is not like that; it is in every moment -- in its own time.  It is the best we know at any time.  And time changes everything.  So the solutions of our youth, are not the solutions of our maturity and seniority -- that we now have to rise to.  The life of one time, is not the life for all time, and thinking so, will keep us answering to the wrong challenges of our lives -- despite all we do.  It is simply the wrong thing, at the wrong time and place -- though many knowledgeable people, will insist that one can never properly and successfully time life, and what must be good, must be good for all time, and every occasion -- which is why they are often so disastrously out of step.

And they grow more so each day, with each passing year -- until the final isolation, which is to be cut off completely from life and apart from it.  That is the obvious.  So our challenge is simply, how do we not get that way?  The real tragedy is that many young people get that way and so don't even make it to adulthood -- let alone the golden years of senior citizenship.

Survival is the fitness.  That is the reality of the matter.  That which is dying, disabled or dead, is not fit -- and one has to change.  Life is not an entitlement -- no matter what you do.

Monday, August 08, 2016

Two Kinds of People

There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who create problems, and those who solve problems.

The worst pairing, is when a problem-creator, gets together with a solutions-creator -- in the classic dysfunctional relationship of codependency.  The more problems one can create, the more the enabler solves for them -- always resulting in a zero-sum game, canceling out the efforts of one another.  Eventually the problem-solver realizes that the more energy they put in -- is the game of the energy-draining problem creator -- for never in their universe, must everything work well.  If it does, it is their calling, to create a problem -- as the only thing they know how to do, to gain the attention of others.

For in their faulty upbringing, the only time they ever received any attention from their parents or teachers, is when they were bad -- and all their efforts to be good. were ignored, dismissed, or ridiculed.  From a lifetime of such humiilations and shame, they learned only fear, and the power of making others fear them -- even if it was to upset the apple cart others had so thoughtfully and carefully loaded.

These are the psychological heirs of the Vandals -- wreaking havoc as their greatest joy -- because they could not conceive and build their own orderly, well-functioning society.  But they knew they could have a power and control over others, if they merely learned to destroy.  A variation on the theme, is an offer to help build -- while undermining everything others built -- in desiring its failure.  And thus the good society of people, have no suspicion that one is working against them -- which is an even worse crime than those openly opposed and defiant.  Because then one knows -- and allows for that caution. 

Eventually and in all likelihood, they are simply identified and banished -- where they can no longer do much harm.  In the extreme, it is physical isolation and detention while in other cases, it is just the advisement and warning to assume and presume nothing about that person -- and particularly anymore, what they tell one to believe about themselves and their motives.  Those are the villains of history and literature -- the cause of "tragedies."

It was never believed that "bad things just happened," since humanity came into its consciousness.   And that consciousness is to believe that there is a cause of problems -- as well as its solutions, and avoidance from future recurrences -- rather than the trap of despair and hopelessness, that it doesn't matter what one does -- the cards are stacked against one, so all one can do, is rage against them.  And of course, rage becomes an end in itself -- to sow as widely as possible -- as one's calling in this world.

Theirs can never be a better world -- just another precarious step away from doom and misfortune -- expecting one day to succumb irreparably.  There is no "happily forever after," as am objective.  Others can merely be pulled down with them -- as their idea of "leveling the playing field."  Gain and advancement is not possible -- only the mind-numbing repetition of life as it always has been before -- and in fact, devolving from that.  There can never be more, but only less.  And so it becomes their self-fulfilling prophecy -- that life can only get worse, despite any progress in every field of human activity and study.

That is the dark side of life -- while on the other, there is relentless change, progress and evolution -- as the whole object of life at any time.  One is never too old or too young to make that progress -- in everything one does.  That is the only way life gets better -- to work at it, and not despair that nothing matters -- it is all futile and hopeless, and so they go about repeating what they've always done before, no matter how spectacular the failures.  And of course, learning nothing from it.  Never any breakthroughs -- to the other side.

The bright future is always on the other side -- the new world, and not the old world people cling to as the only world that can ever be.  It's not like nobody has ever gone there before.  There have always been the few and exceptional -- who know they have to find out as the whole meaning and purpose of their lives.  The worst that can happen, is never to find out.

Friday, July 29, 2016

Everything Matters

A person has to do what they have to do.  It's easy to second-guess what another should have done -- or should do.  That's not the rightful province of any person -- to tell others what to do and how to live their lives.  Their primary and greatest responsibility is to live their own lives -- as best they can, and in doing so, set an example for the others -- as to what is possible.  That's the only way any problem has ever been solved.

There are countless people whose lives are a mess -- giving advice and telling everyone else how they ought to live their lives, rather than actualizing their own to the highest possibilities.  Countless people want increasing and infinitely more -- without ever making the most out of what they already have -- which is usually their greatest problem, so no matter how much they have, and want others to give them, they always need more.

But assuredly, that won't solve their problems -- because any more, will just be wasted, like everything else they've wasted.  And that first, is what are they making with their lives -- their body and their health?  Are they in their best condition they can make themselves -- or are they expecting the doctors to make them as well as they can be? -- or for that matter, any other person?  That is what is most overlooked in the discussion of contemporary problems.

Are you making the most of what you already have? -- and then it is meaningful to discuss, whether more is deserved, merited, and will do any good -- or merely be more resources laid to waste, as one has already proven they have done.  "More" is always the easy answer, but very seldom the real solution -- to most problems.  In most cases, the solution is "different" -- and not more of the same thing, that is already the problem. 

For that reason, one should not be fixated on one answer to everything -- but should entertain more different solutions -- than just the one panacea -- which they feel is the answer to everything, while never asking the right questions.  That is always the root of every problem -- that makes it irresolvable, and just gets hopelessly worse, no matter how much more resources, time and effort they give to doing it that way.

That is invariably the difference between success and failure -- and never simply, more and less.  That's what the countless failures need to know -- that the successful, are doing something different, and not simply more of what is failing them.  Only in that realization, is there the possibility and hope for a breakthrough -- to the other side, and freedom from the torment of constant failure, misery and disappointment.

It is not somebody else's fault; it is one's own lack of understanding -- everything.  Therefore, one must begin everything at the very beginning -- questioning all one knows, because it is one's assumptions and presumptions that are faulty, and not the conclusions assuming they are based on the proper understanding.  Assuming one knows absolutely nothing, is actually the quantum leap in understanding -- and not a waste of time the hasty, misguided and hopelessly lost assume it will be.

To begin every day with a fresh mind, is the great awakening of all wisdom -- and not coincidentally, the great teaching of every spiritual tradition.  "One must die to the old, to be born into the new."  To be refreshed and renewed in this way, is never to grow old.  It sounds like a tautology, or simple truth -- that is the most profound understanding in any life.  That is the root and basis of ever-renewing life -- and not simply old ideas, thoughts and words repeated yet again, as though nobody ever said them before.  In fact, everybody has repeated it before -- and that obviously hasn't worked, and so why not begin anew? -- as though one knew absolutely nothing -- and learns to find out.

So it is irrelevant and counterproductive to boast about what one already knows.  The real value, is the capacity to learn what one doesn't already know -- for that is the treasure, and not all the fool's gold, one simply wants more.